Mum Please Stop it! When Mothers Abuse Their Children

Sexual abuse of children by women is still a social taboo. The idea contradicts all the usual clichés. Women are primarily the victims of sexual violence and not the perpetrators. But experts estimate that women commit 15-20% of sexual abuse. Usually it is mothers who abuse their own children. These cases are hardly ever brought to court – and convictions are even more seldom. Often the victims feel deeply ashamed. Also, the police and the judiciary frequently assume that women are incapable of such crimes. And finally, it is often difficult to determine with certainty where loving concern ends and sexual violence starts.

The film tells the stories of Axel and Andrea, both haunted by their memories of the sexual abuse they suffered at the hands of their mothers. For a long time they repressed the memories of these traumatic childhood experiences and it was not until after the birth of their own children that their devastating memories came back and threatened to overwhelm them. In order to be able to lead normal lives with their children, both Axel and Andrea had to confront their experiences. A big problem for them is that sexual abuse by women is still a taboo subject.Again and again, Axel and Andrea have to fight rejection and incomprehension. But in the end both of them manage to tell their story in public as a first step in a long, painful healing process.


  • Year: 2013
  • Duration: 45 mins
  • Production: A&O BUERO
  • Director: Stephanie N. Linke
  • Available Versions: ENG, GER
  • Country of production: Germany


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