Look at us now Mother

The story of determined woman’s quest to reconcile with and understand her past, which means forgiving her proud, narcissistic and formidable elderly mother, Mildred.

Emmy award-winning filmmaker Gayle Kirschenbaum is determined to unlock the key to her family’s pain and crack open her mother’s brittle shell. When Mildred grudgingly agrees to participate in the process, the two of them uncover shocking family secrets and long-buried suffering that throw their family history into sharp relief, and begin to shift the dynamics of their complex relationship… A relentlessly honest, bitingly funny film.


  • Year: 2015
  • Duration: 84 & 53 mins
  • Production: Kirschenbaum Productions
  • Director: Gayle Kirschenbaum
  • Available Versions: ENG
  • Country of production: USA



  • Impact Docs Awards’ - Winner (Award of Excellence), Flickers: Rhode Island International Film Festival 2015 - Grand Prize (Hearts, Minds, Souls) and Grand Prize (Viola M. Marshall - Audience Choice Award) Atlanta Jewish Film Festival 2015, Charlotte Jewish Film Festival 2015, Columbus Jewish Film Festival 2015, Fort Lauderdale International Film Festival 2015, Hebrew Union, Jewish Wisdom and Wellness 2015, Nashville Jewish Film Festival 2015, Orlando Film Festival 2015, Sarasota Film Festival 2015, Through Women’s Eyes Film Festival 2015, Toronto Jewish Film Festival 2015, UK Jewish Film Festival 2015, Atlanta Jewish Film Festival 2016, Baton Rouge Jewish Film Festival (Louisiana) 2016, Cincinatti Jewish and Israeli Film Festival 2016, Hartford Jewish Film Festival 2016, Miami Jewish Film Festival 2016, The Mumbai International Film Festival 2016, Mandel JCC’s The Donald M Ephraim Palm Beach Jewish Film Festival, Washington Jewish Film Festival 2016, Woodstock Film Festival 2015, What if? Women in Film Festival 2019 (Switzerland)

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